The Conflict Reset

The Conflict Reset is a 35-minute therapist-led video masterclass designed to help you understand why arguments escalate, recognise your default conflict patterns, and learn practical tools to interrupt the cycle before disconnection takes over. Grounded in attachment theory, nervous system science, and trauma-informed practice, you’ll leave with a clear framework for navigating conflict with greater awareness, confidence, and connection.
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What you’ll be learning

Understand why conflict happens

Most arguments aren’t really about the dishes, the text message, or the forgotten plans. They begin much earlier, in the moment your nervous system senses threat. In this section, you’ll discover why conflict can escalate so quickly, how your body influences your reactions, and why the same arguments often repeat themselves. Understanding what’s happening beneath the surface is the first step towards changing it.

Recognise your own conflict patterns

Every person has a default way of responding when connection feels at risk. You might pursue, withdraw, over-explain, become defensive, or try to smooth everything over. None of these responses make you “bad” at relationships, they are protective strategies your nervous system has learned over time. By recognising your own conflict style and the patterns it creates, you’ll begin to interrupt the cycle before it takes over.

Learn how to reset instead of react

Conflict doesn’t have to end in distance or disconnection. In this masterclass, you’ll learn practical, therapist-approved tools you can use in the moment, from recognising early warning signs and slowing conversations down, to using simple reset phrases that reduce defensiveness and create space for repair. The goal is to navigate conflict with greater awareness, confidence, and connection.

Who this course is for

Couples who keep having the same arguments

If you find yourselves returning to the same disagreements without ever really resolving them, this masterclass is for you. Perhaps one of you shuts down while the other pushes for answers, or conversations quickly become defensive, reactive, or emotionally exhausting. You’ll learn why these patterns repeat, what fuels them beneath the surface, and how to interrupt the cycle before it leads to further disconnection.

Anyone who wants to communicate with less reactivity

Conflict is about what happens inside us when we feel misunderstood, criticised, or emotionally unsafe. Whether you’re in a romantic relationship, navigating family dynamics, friendships, or the workplace, this masterclass will help you recognise your default responses, regulate them more effectively, and communicate with greater clarity, confidence, and intention.

People who want practical tools, not just theory

Understanding what to do in the moment is what creates change. This masterclass combines therapeutic insight with simple, practical strategies you can use immediately. From recognising your early warning signs and understanding your conflict style, to using reset phrases that help slow conversations down and make repair possible. The goal is learning how to reset before conflict becomes disconnection.

Why this works

Grounded in therapeutic practice

This masterclass is grounded in the realities of how conflict unfolds in everyday relationships. Drawing on attachment theory, nervous system science, psychodynamic therapy, and trauma-informed practice, it explains why we react the way we do when connection feels threatened. Rather than focusing on blame or communication techniques alone, you’ll begin to understand the protective patterns driving conflict beneath the surface.

Practical tools you can use immediately

Change happens in the moments that matter most. This masterclass is designed to give you clear, practical strategies you can use during conflict, from recognising your early warning signs and understanding your conflict style, to slowing conversations down and using simple reset phrases that reduce defensiveness. These are tools you can take straight into your next difficult conversation.

Focused solely on interruption

Healthy relationships defined by the ability to recover and learn from conflict. Rather than teaching you to avoid disagreements, this masterclass helps you recognise the moment conflict begins to escalate, and shows you how to interrupt the cycle before it becomes disconnection. Here you can notice sooner, react less, and repair faster.

Beau Charles

is a queer psychodynamic couples therapist and clinical supervisor with extensive experience supporting couples and relationship constellations through conflict, rupture, and repair. Known within the LGBTQIA+ community for their thoughtful, relational approach, Beau helps people move beyond repetitive arguments by understanding the attachment patterns, nervous system responses, and unconscious dynamics that sit beneath them.

Beau’s work is grounded in the belief that conflict is present in every relationship, and that it is not something to fear, avoid, or eliminate, but an opportunity to better understand ourselves and one another. Drawing on psychodynamic therapy, attachment theory, nervous system awareness, and years of clinical experience working with queer couples, polyamorous constellations, and diverse relationship structures, Beau offers a compassionate, non-pathologising approach that helps people notice patterns sooner, react with greater awareness, and reconnect with intention.

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Face conflict head on.

Conflict is inevitable. Enrol today and begin understanding the patterns beneath your arguments, so you can respond with greater awareness, interrupt unhelpful cycles, and reconnect with intention.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • Conflict is part of every relationship and in turn, part of this process. As you begin to look more closely at your patterns, things that were previously unspoken may come into view. The masterclass is designed to support you in navigating these moments with more awareness. If it feels uncomfortable, you are likely touching something important.

  • Not at all. Some people arrive in moments of tension or disconnection, while others come simply wanting to understand each other more deeply. The work is as valuable for strengthening connection as it is for repairing it. In many ways, the most powerful time to do this work is before things feel unmanageable.

  • This masterclass is intentionally inclusive of different relational structures, including monogamous, non-monogamous, and queer relationships.

  • This masterclass is not therapy, but it is shaped by therapeutic thinking. The Conflict Reset is a masterclass created by Beau Charles, drawing on psychodynamic, attachment-based, and trauma-informed approaches. While Beau will not be offering individual feedback, the material is designed to help you reflect deeply, at your own pace, in a way that feels contained and accessible.

  • Change in a relationship rarely requires both people to begin at the same time. When one person becomes more aware of their patterns, the dynamic often starts to shift in subtle but meaningful ways. You can move through this masterclass alone and still experience significant insight, not only into your current relationship, but into how you relate more broadly.

  • Yes. Relationships are not one-size-fits-all, and neither is this course. If you are part of a couple or a wider relational constellation, you are welcome to engage with the material together. You may choose to watch, reflect, and complete exercises collaboratively, or move through the content individually and come back together in conversation.

  • This is designed to be a 45 minute masterclass that you can return to at any time. There is also a quick reference guide included.